Sweet parent, there’s a truth God wants you to know. There’s a truth that you need to know and that your family needs you to live. If you can embrace this truth it will change your life and the lives of those you love most.
Please read this slowly and let it water your soul: You are the perfect Mother for your child. Fathers, you are the perfect Dad for your son or daughter. Can you say that to yourself? Do so. Let your heart hear those words out loud.
Yes, you and your mistakes, your fears, your dreams, your strengths and weaknesses. Everything about you that makes you unique also makes you the only one who is the right person for this job. God wanted you, no one else to be your child’s mom or dad.
The saddest part is that you are the one telling yourself the lie that you aren’t good enough, that you are a failure. I’m right, aren’t I? It’s your voice whispering those hurtful words.
How do I know you’re the perfect parent for your child?
The more I am able to talk with parents, the more in awe I am of God’s planning. I’ve been blessed to meet parents who have such peace about their child’s health. Their faith is so big and they trust God come what may. God seems to be using their faith to touch others as they follow the steps the doctor has laid out.
Other parents cry out to God against those man made plans (I would be one of them:)). We pray without ceasing for better – for a miracle!
But, always, I see families in very unique circumstances that call for different responses. None of our situations are the same and that’s why none of us are the same.
I also see parents who are meeting their child’s emotional needs in just the right way at just the right time. Sometimes children need us to be strong and fearless. Sometimes they need to know it’s OK to be afraid. Your tender heart that wants to do better for your child is the same tender heart that makes you alone perfect to meet their needs.
How do we get this way? Where does this belief that we’re failures come from? I believe it’s because we spend too much time comparing our faults to other parents’ perceived “perfections”. We look at the outside world and see Moms and Dads with qualities we admire and wish we had. We have to know that their children are not our children. Their purpose is not ours. God has a plan for each family and each individual. Jeremiah 29:11 is one of my favorite verses (you’ll hear me refer to it a lot) because it shows that He plans our lives and His plans are GOOD! “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope” (NKJ). Notice He didn’t say anything about making us like everyone else.
God knows us like no other. He knew from the beginning how we would respond to our child’s health challenge and every other aspect of their lives. I believe its all part of His plan. If I can’t sit back and peacefully accept poor health for my child, maybe it’s because I’m not suppose to.
There’s another reason why we don’t know the truth about who we really are as daughters and sons of God. We have too much “stuff” in our hearts that shouldn’t be there. That’s why we need to examine our hearts on a regular basis. We have to recognize our sins and our messy motives so that we can give them to Him (ask for forgiveness and help). Then, we have to accept His forgiveness. I don’t want to hurt you, but did you know that refusing to accept His forgiveness is actually another sin? Yep, it’s called “false guilt”. It’s a sin because it interferes with our relationship with God.
It’s so critical to get those sins out of the way so that we can be close to God. We’re dependent on His guidance in this journey, aren’t we? We can only recognize the path He lays out for us by spending time with Him. Reading His Word and praying help us to know His voice and follow His lead.
Feeling overwhelmed by all of this and don’t know where to start? I can’t recommend the “Messy Motives and Wrong-Way Roads” bundle enough. I’m right there to help you step by step through the unpleasant process. Yes, I admit looking at our own sin is not fun, but it’s so worth it! The freedom you gain from being bogged down with junk plus the closer relationship with God is amazing.
In that beautiful freeing relationship with your Father, you will finally believe the truth – you are the perfect parent for your child.
Don’t forget, I’m only an e-mail away (Kimberly@kimberlyehlers.com) and a whole group of parents just like you is waiting to support you at: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ParentsHTH/
In His Love,
Kimberly
www.kimberlyehlers.com
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